I have three words for you, three words that will send chills down your spine, that will make your eyes roll into the back of your head, that makes your stomach turn into a knot.... MOTHER IN LAW I thought that I was done with my earlier post... but I started thinking about Mother in Laws... they are the biggest pain in the butt!! Thank goodness mine lives in Dallas, a good ways away. I know that there are others that are not as fortunate, the only word I have for you is MOVE I recently had TWO MIL's, but my Father in law divorced his wife and so she is not technically my step-MIL anymore.... but we still stay in touch, I love her and respect her as a person and that will not ever change. Then there is the ex-step-MIL. I have one of those too... so technically I have 3 MIL's. My hubbies older siblings mother is my FIL's ex wife who is still close to the family and still have family gatherings with (rather interesting) She is another one that I love to talk to and respect. She actually helped me get a job with her (debt collectors) while we were living in OK . She is a lovely perseon. THEN there is the REAL MIL. My hubbies mom... she is a peice of work. There are times I would love to ask her what in the hell is she thinking and other times I would just love to write her out of our lives... she lies, pity parties herself, lies, makes excuses, lies... did I mention lies?? Which does not go over well with me... then, there is the parenting advice.... that is one thing I cannot stand. There are times I wonder how any of her kids survived and she is trying to give ME parenting advice??? Thanks but NO FREAKIN thank you! What advice should I take?? The one on how to prevent a drunk boyfriend from putting a gun in my child's face??? The one on how to get a quick divorce from hubby number 5 and still mantain that it has not affected my children??? The one on how to meet a man on the internet and MOVE to another state and move in and marry him and NOT tell my teenager about it and say that it does not affect my children??? Or how about leave my children alone with no food, no milk, no electricty to go out with some loser guy??? And then to say that NONE of it is my fault that their dads left them and she had no choice??? OK, yeah, I am going to take parenting advice from her... sure, yeah, talk about your psychologist/psychiatrist bills for why your kids need therapy ( I wonder how my hubby turned out so normal...) Granted, my family is not perfect and I am sure that my mom is a pain in the butt for my hubby and yeah we live really close to my family, but my parents will actually call our home and talk to my hubby instead of me... how sad is that?? :o) My dad will invite my hubby out before he invites me somewhere. My parents have learned that parenting advice is not something that I like, if I have a question I will ASK someone, if not then leave me alone. My 4 kids have managed to live this long with no major issues, I would say that I am doing a pretty good job. Neither of our parents agree with us homeschooling our kids, but that is a choice that we have made and no one will change our minds on that issue.
My MIL has discussed with us a few times about letting our older children come down to TX to visit them for a week... WITHOUT us. Which does not fly with me... MIL and her hubby both smoke, and I do not allow that around my kids, my dad smokes and he has to go outside when in our home and he goes to his office or outside when we are in his home (out of respect for my wishes) then there is the issue of WHO would stay with my kids while they are at work?? She says that she cannot take off the whole week that they are there so they are too young to stay by themselves and I refuse to let some stranger watch my kids. (yes, I know I am an overbearing, protective mother) and to leave my BIL with them would be the same as leaving them by themselves... and on and on... luckily she has not pushed the subject too hard with us and has yet to come through with what she wants so I have not had to tell her that she is out of her freakin mind :o)
OK, now I think I am done... just thought I would throw in the spine chilling, stomach twisting words.... MOTHER IN LAW